God expects every woman who intends to please Him to enjoy her marriage. You cannot expect love where you have sown deceit and hate. You cannot expect forgiveness where you have not given forgiveness. What ever you want to see happen you have to give.
God expects every woman to be filled with His spirit, you cannot be filled with the holy Ghost and still partake in the sin of lust, greed and convertousness. You have to be in daily communion with God. Meditating always about His unmerited mercy towards you. The more you alighn yourself to the plans of God for you as His female expression, the more your joy as lady in waiting, in marriage and in your calls, also the reason to rest. Meditate daily on His Word, let it be your character. Be empty of bad fruits so He can refresh you with grace for each day to over come.